A few months ago I watched an episode of ‘Drop Dead Diva’ on Lifetime channel. Not only had I been consistently and pleasantly surprised by the writers of this new series (the story lines are amazing), but that particular evening I felt inspired to blog about this new series. Originally this blog was written nearly 9 months ago. I’ve since edited the final version and so here it is.
For those of you who’ve never seen an episode of the series ‘Drop Dead Diva’, its about a young woman ‘reborn’ into a new body (someone else’s body – don’t ask watch the series..lol) with a new identity and a new life that is dramatically different from the life she had lived before. In her perils of adjusting to a new way of living she is constantly challenged to “let go” of her former way of thinking and adopt a new way of behaving.
After viewing this one episode I thought, “isn’t that just how we live our lives on a daily basis?” We seem to constantly be influx between letting go what we thought we knew in order to adopt a new way of thinking or living.
Watching Drop Dread Diva reminded me of one important factor necessary to live a fulfilling and happy life. In order to accept a new and improved life we have to let go of what used to be. Often times this proves difficult since it involves our emotions.
That particular evening I found myself reminiscing of old relationships (both personal and professional) that I had to let go of and accept the “new” reality where my life was heading at the time. I remember feeling sad and afraid when those times presented themselves to me. It wasn’t always easy to let go of a person or situation I felt was ideal for a time or that I had become accustomed to having in my life. One such situation was the decision I faced to relocate to England five years prior.
I still remember how hard my decision to leave America was for me. I was eager to start my life over and accomplish my dream of living in another country. Yet the thought of living so far away from home seemed overwhelming. I felt dread when I booked a one-way ticket two months before my intended departure. Now who said change was easy or even felt good regardless of how “right” we knew the choice would be?
Leaving a job I had worked for 5 years and a niche I have carved for myself seemed crazy on my best day of thinking and paralyzing on my worst day. But there was no room for advancement and I was eager for a different way of life. I wasn’t exactly clear on what I wanted to do in England. I only knew I wanted a change. Four years ago that decision altered the course of my life. Let’s just say the “training wheels” had come off.
My decision to explore the word and leave my comfort zone opened many exciting new doors in life for me. Eventually my path led me to running my own business, becoming a life coach, and traveling the world. Normally, there’s comfort in being able to predict what is right around the corner. However, comfort often brings with it complacency which can lead to contempt and discontent in the long run.
In life, we may not always know exactly what it is we desire, but we almost always know when our reality no longer gives us joy. We may only have a an idea or a dream, but we don’t always know how we’re going to get there or by which road. I’ve learned the quickest way to finding our dreams and accomplishing that which we truly desire, requires doing some ‘spring cleaning’. Out with the old and in with the new! To put it simply: If it doesn’t’ serve your growth, it’s time to move on or move away from your current circumstance or situation as best you can.
For some of us this might take the form of leaving a job which provided you a sense of security or it might mean leaving a relationship that no fulfills you on a deeper level. At others times it might mean taking a risk to try something new for the first time – can someone say bungee jumping? Remember, when we hold on to ‘what has been’ it only serves to create more angst, confusion and fear. It’s only when we decide to let go of what we’re holding on to that we then find the clarity needed to reach for something new, improved and often times, much better for our lives.
Sure change can seem frightening, challenging and scary not some of the time but most of the time. But to remain with the ‘status quo’ when it no longer speaks your truth is deadly. Remember, in all things in your life, the choice is always yours.
*Pictures taken in Manila, Philippines July 2010..one of my many new adventures!*